dieting in a house of skinny people

So I made the resolution this January to get back on the portion control bandwagon and attempt to lose the 10 pounds I regained last year, plus a little more.  I was motivated, ready, and had all the tools I needed. There was just one problem…my husband is skinny.

When I start these manic all-or-nothing calorie counting adventures, I go totally strict and want to be in control of all of it, or feel like I won’t succeed.  I plan out as many meals as possible. However, in a household where we both work full time and have a 9 yr old, it’s not always realistic (or wanted) that I would do ALL of the grocery shopping and ALL of the cooking.

The other night my husband decided he was going to make us turkey burgers for dinner. Great!  Imagine the horror, though, when I got home and saw a tray full of French fries and tater tots he made as a side dish. Not the tots! NOOOOOO! Can’t. Resist. The. Tots!

I will start out by saying that I’m quite lucky in that for the most part my husband likes to eat healthy.  He loves fish (I don’t) and even enjoys salads for dinner once a week.  All that being said, he’s a big fan of a heavy carb as a side dish and likes to have beer before, during and after dinner which is also tempting for me to join in.  When he cooks he also likes to dish me up large portions because he knows I’m a big eater (even though I’m trying not to be these days).

My son inherited his dad's body type - tall and skinny.  I'm thoroughly jealous that he has that natural shut off switch that I somehow learned to override and no longer seem to hear it or feel it.  He gets to enjoy grilled cheese, chips, macaroni and cheese, pizza and ice cream every night for dessert and still stays at the very low end of the chart for weight.

So what’s a girl to do? He mocks me when I bust out my measuring cups and spoons to portion everything out. That’s just not how he rolls. I often have to ask him when he's made dinner – “now tell me EXACTLY what you put in here”.  He just looks at me like I’m crazy.  I tally up every ingredient for calories, fat and protein and log my serving into My Fitness Pal.

Any tips for those of us who are trying to watch what we eat but live with people who don’t need to?