Mothers Day Musings

Growing up, I had a good relationship with my mom (not a “Hallmark” mother-daughter relationship, but a decent one). We had some shared interests but also many differences.  This December will mark 7 years since she passed away.  If you are lucky enough to still have your mom in your life, consider yourselves very lucky!

I always took the idea of having children for granted. In my 20’s it was not on my radar.  I just assumed I would have kids someday, and it took me a long time to find my husband. I was 35 when I got married.  Thankfully once we started trying, we were immediately successful in getting pregnant.  I had a picture-perfect pregnancy and thoroughly enjoyed the experience…up until delivery day. 

My son was born 5 days late via emergency c-section. And not the “emergency c-sections” that people refer to when basically they had a routine c-section where they were awake and their spouse was in the room with them. That is NOT what happened to me.   I’ll spare you  the details, but basically the baby was in major distress when I arrived at the hospital.  A frantic team of nurses swarmed around me, I heard them call the doctor, mention the word “crash” and they wisked me off to the ER.

I was knocked out completely under general anesthesia and my husband was not allowed in.  Our son Tyler was born quickly, but with complications.  I didn’t get to see him or hold him until about 8 hours later. He ended up being transported to a DIFFERENT HOSPITAL than where I was staying.  Talk about heartbreaking! He had to stay in the NICU for 8 days.

We waited a year and started trying for another baby, and this time it did not happen quickly. I did end up getting pregnant…several times…but ended up with 4 miscarriages.  That is why my son is an only child.

He’s a true miracle – from conception to birth to a sweet 9 year old boy with a recent life threatening heart condition diagnosis.  Every day is a gift.

I love being a mom, and I hope I’m able to be a mother to my son for a long time to come.  I still remember the heartbreak in my mother's voice when I told her that I was moving from Chicago all the way out here to Arizona.  Now I get it. Whether you are a mom to 1 child or 10, enjoy your special Mother’s Day and all the blessings in your life!